Solo Sex 

The 'M' word - Masturbation.  Many people don't think that it's something that women think about or even do.  How sad!  Learning to 'love yourself' can be one of the most pleasurable activities around.  There is nothing wrong with giving yourself pleasure, and if you do it, it doesn't mean that you are a freak. 

If you've never explored your own body, get over your hang-ups, and start now.  Not only will you be able to give yourself the occasionally needed release, but you will also be able to guide your lover because you know what you enjoy.  Start out by getting a mirror, and I know it sounds stupid, but look at yourself.  See what your vagina looks like.  Appreciate the color, the size, the moisture, the warmth.  Touch the outer lips, or the labia.  Feel their texture.  As you get excited, see how they swell up.  Notice your clitoris.  Look at it, touch it, and feel the sensations through your body. 

Close your eyes, and touch yourself.  Feel the wetness as your body responds.  Get excited and enjoy the process.  Experiment with different strokes on your clitoris.  Use circular motions, then alternate with more of a rubbing motion.  The most important part is to find what you enjoy, and go with it.  Use one hand at your clitoris, while the other plays with your nipples.  Taste the fluids your body secretes when it is aroused.  There is nothing weird or sick about enjoying and experimenting with your own body! 

Many people add the pleasure of a vibrator or sex toy in their solo sex sessions.  The fast vibratory sensations they offer are often the quickest way to a climax!  It is a myth that you can become desensitized to human touch if you play with vibrators too much.  The sensory nerves that give you so much pleasure will always 'reset' themselves, given time.  In the same way that the ultra sensitive post-orgasmic feeling is only a temporary state, the excited nerve endings calm down and will begin accepting any kind of stimulation again.