We all want our lovemaking to be passionate, zipless and spontaneous. And when people hear the words "safer sex" they don't necessarily assume spontaneous passion. However, this is exactly what can and should be expected when practicing safer sex.

First of all, let's give a brief definition of safer sex so that we all know exactly what we are talking about. Safer sex is sex that prevents the sharing of high risk bodily fluids that may contain the HIV virus, or other viruses. Fluids such as semen, vaginal secretions, and blood are considered much more high risk fluids because virus transmission is easy when contact with these fluids occur due to their potentially higher content of the HIV virus. It is also very high risk to have these fluids come into contact with broken skin or thin membranes, such as the anal lining. Allowing these fluids to come into contact with a woman's vagina is also considered very high risk. Safer sex is not a guarantee that no disease will be transmitted but it does lower the risk of transmission extensively.

So, the first thing to know is that you can do some very erotic things with your partner that are very low risk and require no added protection. Nibbling that does not break the skin is wonderfully erotic and fun. The ears & neck are wonderfully safe erogenous zones that most people love having sucked & nibbled. You might want to start here. Then, slowly begin to undress your partner. Or, if you want to heighten your partner's excitement you may want to tease your partner by undressing near them but when they reach for you, backing away. Let them know that they need to wait and that the longer they wait, the better the prize. Many couples find massage very erotic. Massage that does not include genital contact can be wonderfully hot and steamy and 100% safe. Licking, sucking, and nibbling on your partner's nipples & breasts can be wonderful and as long as they aren't nursing, safe too. Masturbating in front of your partner can be terribly erotic and will probably make your partner cream her pants or leave a huge bulge in his shorts, and is exceedingly safe as long as you wash your hands afterwards. Indulge in these safe steamy pleasures. Enjoy your erotic freedom without worry.

I know that now some of you are thinking, "here comes the latex, and there goes the spontaneity." And I say, not so! We know how to make latex exceedingly erotic, steamy, and spontaneous. The next time your man is putting on a condom, just say to him, "allow me". Try to have unlubricated condoms with ribs or love dots available for this purpose. Open the package, put a few drops of a wonderfully slippery lubricant like Probe, which Electric Lover sells, on the inside of the condom, which will make it feel great for him. Hold the condom in your mouth, and slowly roll the condom on your partner's erect penis, using your lips and hands, being careful to leave some room at the tip. This is sure to drive him wild. Even if you are going to have vaginal or anal sex your own saliva will make for a good starting lubricant, so make sure to suck and lick him in his rubber raincoat until it is dripping with your spit. This would be a good time to add a lot more of that Probe lubricant to his protected penis. If you are planning to continue to perform oral sex on him, and if you aren't particularly fond of the taste of latex, make sure to cover the condom in one Foreplay's Succulents 17 different flavored water based lubricants. If you like to use sex toys during oral, anal, or vaginal sex, make sure to put them into a condom as well. And make sure that the toy is clean both before and after sex play.

It is important when penetrating your partner's vagina or anus with your fingers, hand, or fist to have trim nails and to wear latex gloves. The good news is that gloves can be eroticized as well. Try putting a few drops of Probe lubricant into each finger of the glove. This will increase tactile sensation. Most importantly when using gloves, it is essential to talk dirty to your guy or gal. Don't be afraid to do this. The most erogenous zone of any person's body is their brain. This means that if you associate gloves with hot, steamy, erotic, orgasmic sex their use will be part of a very hot, steamy, erotic, orgasmic sexual encounter.

Now guys, what about for her? How can we make going down on your woman safer and hot? It is important to make sure that if you are eating out a woman or rimming your partner that the area be covered with either a latex dental dam or, even better, regular (not microwaveable) plastic wrap. If you really want to turn the heat up try this for hot oral sex: cover your partner's vagina or ass with a lubricant, take a large piece of plastic wrap, put lubricant on one half of it, fold the dry half over onto the slippery half, place the folded wrap on her vagina or your partner's ass, and munch away! Bon Appetit!