The vagina has a sphincter, a grouping of muscles that control its tightness. This sphincter relaxes to allow childbirth, medical examination, the insertion of tampons and most importantly sexual penetration. When the sphincter clenches and prevents all forms of penetration the condition is called Vaginismus.

Vaginismus is cause for some very painful intercourse. Self-examination is a first step to diagnosis.  Women are recommended to self-palpitate themselves by placing fingers into the vagina to check tightness, if it feels unusually tight or are unable to penetrate the vagina it may signify Vaginismus. If the problem persists and the vagina seems unable to relax then the woman should check with her physician about the problem. As always if you have health concerns, check with your physician. 

Most Vaginismus is temporary, caused by situational or psychological factors. Stress and lack of foreplay might be two of the largest cases.  Foreplay is a major factor in relaxing and preparing both parties for intercourse.  When women find themselves to tight to accept the penis, they should not become anxious for it will only add to the dilemma. One method to relieve the temporary constriction is to take a deep breath and relax as much as possible. Some suggest warm packs or relaxing baths. If you are completely comfortable with your partner, humor is a good means to relax.  Gentle vaginal massage, brings blood flow to the area and adds to arousal, which leads to relaxation. Having an orgasm from cunnilingus before intercourse is also a wonderful and enjoyable way to relax those muscles.

Rarely, women will experience constant or recurring Vaginismus. For these women simple techniques may not relieve their discomfort and they must go see a physician. The physician will check medical history and perform an exam. The doctor will also have to review all sexual history looking for a psychological trauma. Possible factors could be abuse, rape, painful first intercourse, or even simple fears. 

The important thing to note, whether your Vaginismus is of the temporary or permanent sort, it is usually curable. By being aware of your problem and understanding it you are increasing your chances of easier vaginal penetration.