I cant get turned on!

[anita]

Well my first sexual experience was lik a week ago with a guy. Im bisexual, not because Ive experimented...its jus cause I feel in my heart I am. I dont know but making out with him didnt turn me on, jerkin him off didnt either and fingerpoping me didnt really either. He tried to talk dirty to me and still no luck .We parted awkwardly and he told me it felt weird...hell yeah it did.
Then I had sex with my ex girlfriend. I wasnt gettin turned on at all. She gave me oral, made out with me and other things but in my mind I felt like vomiting for some reason... I dont know why because I always think about these things...I wanted to do it so long and when I do im disgusted...its gettin frustrating cause I want to enjoy it but I dont know why I dont. Please help...thanks

[nelle24]

Actually, it's not surpising you felt disgusted: being involved in sexual activities when you're not aroused BEFORE you begin them is a bad idea: it can take a real toll emotionally, and sometimes physically.
Why the attempt to force it? It's likely not so simple as this gender or that -- because a person is bisexual doesn't mean EVERYONE of all genders arouses them OR that they can be aroused at any time. Nor does it mean partnered sex is what they are ready for or want at a given time, any time.

So, slow the heck down. When someone comes along who DOES truly arouse you, you'll know. And until then, wait on partnered sex: it'll be there waiting for you. In the meantime, you feel sexually frustrated, that's what your own two hands are for.
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[anita]

thanks for the advice...ill try and wait till i get someone that i really am aroused by...

[pupper]

Yes Anita you must be attracted to your lover
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