Premature Ejaculation

[spiceboy]

I have a question, I am 31-yr old married person having two kids. My sex life has gone tottaly disturb for last 7-8 months. I dont get much pleasure time and get discharge with 1 to 2 minutes. I think we call it premature ejaculation. I request to all if anyone can guide me to get rid of this thing.
I would like to add during my bachlor life i had been doing too much masturbation.

You are requested please guide me towards right way...thank you very much all of you.[/list]

[vetta]

Difficulties with ejaculation range from rapid or premature ejaculation – PE - (before the man wishes to ejaculate) to delayed or inhibited ejaculation where a man may not be able to ejaculate at all. This can be due to a wide range of factors, including, but not limited to, spinal cord injury and medication side effects.
PE is the most common male sexual problem. The majority of male adolescents and young adults begin their sexual lives as premature ejaculators. Most men, as they gain experience, do develop ejaculatory control. However, approximately three in ten adult males regularly experience PE.

The good news is that PE can be understood and changed. You can increase your sexual satisfaction—and your partner’s—by learning to control ejaculation. The challenge is to deal with the complex, multicausal, multidimensional problem of PE and to enjoy sex with enhanced ejaculatory control.

The first skill is to learn how to relax your body during sexual arousal. Physiological relaxation is the foundation for your body’s healthy sexual functioning.

The second skill is to learn to identify the point of ejaculatory inevitability. After that point, orgasm is no longer voluntary. Even if your mother-in-law walks in or something happens which is a sexual turnoff, you will still ejaculate. Actually, the point of ejaculatory inevitability is the beginning of the three- to ten-second orgasmic response. Many men report the most sensations and feelings just a second or two before they ejaculate.
The next skill is to enhance your pleasure, not reduce it. Do-it- yourself ejaculatory control techniques emphasize distracting yourself and reducing arousal—for example, by wearing two condoms, using a desensitizing cream on the head of the penis, thinking anti-erotic thoughts about debt or cleaning bathrooms, or using distraction techniques such as going over baseball scores or multiplication tables. These do reduce arousal but do not enhance ejaculatory control because they disconnect your awareness (the primary source of control) from your sensations and body. In addition, they carry the risk of causing a more severe sexual problem, erectile dysfunction.

Your focus on performance can become a major distraction for your partner. While she may be distracted from pleasure by her own unreasonable expectations, such perfectionist sexual goals interfere with your positive feelings about sex and about each other, and ignore the reality of variable sexual response. You are not a perfectly functioning sexual machine. You are a sexual man with changing and complex thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. You are not a rock or an island. You are involved in an interpersonal sexual relationship. Remember, the ultimate goal of learning ejaculatory control is increased sexual and relationship satisfaction. In understanding the role of sexuality in a relationship, desire and satisfaction are more important than arousal and orgasm.
There are probably lots of other physical techniques to prevent premature orgasm that work to varying degrees with different people, but the big thing is to remember that sex is the proverbial garden of delights, as trite as it may sound. Take your time, sample a little bit of everything, don't be afraid to experiment, and don't be in such a hell-fired hurry to get on with the "main event." Make love to a woman's entire body, not just her vagina and clitoris, and remember that your penis is not the only part of your body that can give pleasure.

I hope this helps!

[Doug]

Throughout my teens and twenties (I'm thirty-eight now), I had an embarrassing tendency to come within thirty seconds or less during intercourse, or sometimes during foreplay. I masturbated frequently during this time frame, as most men do, and realize now that I had inadvertently conditioned myself to ejaculate quickly. I'm not condemning masturbation -- I still indulge occasionally, even though I'm happily married now -- but this is a hard cycle to break. One trick I learned to make masturbation work to my advantage is to bring myself right to the brink of climax a few hours before sex; this tends to delay my orgasm to some extent, and makes it more voluminous and pleasurable.
And when you do get off too quickly, don't let it end there. I remember one occasion during my early twenties when I came all over the mattress beneath me while performing oral sex on my girlfriend. I continued until she was sated, and when I apologetically revealed the puddle of semen on the bed, rather than being dismayed, she felt delighted and flattered that I should reach orgasm so readily, such was my obvious arousal at being with her. Use your body and your imagination to their fullest, and you will both feel more gratification than an orgasm alone can bring.
Most of all, don't get buried in feelings of inadequacy. It's normal and natural for men to come quickly and frequently, going back to the cave man days when this was necessary for the survival of the species. It takes practice, patience, and a thorough knowledge of yourself, both physically and mentally, that only comes with time.

[pupper]

[Doug]

Hi everyone,

I've been doing the "kegel" exercises and things have unbelievably improved! Check it out: http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

[Eddie]

You might try the "Stop-Start" method. For example, when you feel you are approaching the point of no return, stop what you are doing with and to your partner, and just do nothing, or hold each other, until the urge to ejaculate subsides. Then start again and stop again when you feel you are approaching orgasm. It may take a few tries to identify the point of no return, and to stop before then, but you do have the rest of your life to practice and "get it right." Tell your partner when you need her to slow down or stop her movements for the moment, have sex with her on top, and relax.
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[samo]

I was in exactly the same situation as Newby.
Here is what you should do. Start taking a daily vitamin and a herbal like Semenax or Serogen. Dont have more than 1 small alchoholic drink per day. Have your first round orally, I last alot longer orally and you always have a nice big load (hard to fake it when its in her mouth). Then go down and do her orally, get her all hot & ready and by then you'll be ready to slide in in her vagina, which will be wide open ("put it in! Put it in!") Now you will last longer. I typically have 4 to 6 cumshots, but before the multivitamin and Semanax, I had maybe 1 or 2 (depressing).